|DRUGS & SMOKING
"FOR YOU CREATED MY INNERMOST BEING; YOU KNIT ME TOGETHER IN MY MOTHER'S WOMB (Psalm 139:13)
HOW TO QUIT SMOKING
- Your doctor can prescribe medicines.
- Your medical insurance program probably has a quit-smoking program and hot-line.
- You may have to use the vapor- alternatives and non-nicotine products for a while as you overcome your addiction.
- Drink lots of water.
- Eat sunflower seeds or other snacks
- Use mints, suckers, toothpicks, or other things you can put in your mouth and keep your hands busy.
- Get in 12-step groups and other support groups.
FACTS AND RESULTS OF SMOKING QUOTED IN THE MEDIA
- Three fourths of all deaths from lung disease are tobacco related.
- One third of all deaths from cancer and heart disease are tobacco related.
- There are 60 carcinogens and 200 poisons in tobacco and marijuana.
- Second-hand smoke is very dangerous also.
- Nicotine addiction and long-term cough.
- Cancers in the: Lung – Mouth – Esophagus – Kidney – Bladder – Pancreas – Liver.
- Decreased lung function and reduced stamina.
- Infections in the Respiratory tract, Ears, and Lungs.
- Bacterial and Viral infections.
- Pneumonia – Bronchitis – Asthma – Lung damage.
- Increased blood pressure.
SUBSTANCE ABUSE AND ADDICTION – DEFINITION
- More alcohol or drugs are required to achieve the same high, as Tolerance is built up.
- Persistent drug-seeking desire and drug-seeking behavior.
- Compulsive use of drugs despite poor performance in social, educational, occupational and recreational activities.
MARIJUANA (Pot – Weed – Grass – Reefer – Hash)
- The most widely used illicit drug in the United States, and the number one Gateway Drug to the use of Opiods, etc.
- Marijuana today is more potent than in the 1970’s.
- The average age of repeated use is 17, with the starting age in Middle School.
- The University of California has stated that their research determined that smoking 3 joints of Pot is equal to 20 cigarettes. Other studies say five times stronger. Any medical benefit like curing cancer is way overstated when you consider the downside negative effects of smoking cigarettes or marijuana.
- Thirty five percent of all trauma patients had THC in their blood when involved in traffic crashes, according to a National Highway Traffic Safety Administration study.
- Over half of teens in drug treatment are dependent on marijuana according to some media reports.
- FAMILY - Marijuana users think differently and will steal from their families and abuse them physically and mentally. Marijuana use like alcoholism will destroy your family relationships.
- TIME - Dtug addictions are all consuming, requiring a lot of time to get the next fix. While using drugs, you are useless in school, at work, or to your friends and family. Rehab and jail also takes a lot of time once your are caught using drugs.
- SCHOOL - Kids start using drugs as early as 14, with the highest use for ages 18 - 28 when they should be excelling in school to build a base for the next 50 years. Addicts will always be short of cash and have family and friend problems. The addict will often start skipping classes and homework. Their grades will drop drastically, affection the next 50 years.
- BRAIN FUNCTION - Marijuana and other drug users perform worse on cognitive testing, especially if they start before the age of 16 when your brain is developing the most. The prefrontal cortex part of the brain is the last part to develop and is used to execute function tasks. Drug users perform lower on standard testing for college entrance.
- CAREER - Drug tests required for a new job will eliminate you if you use marijuana beause it stays in your system a month. After you are hired, drug use will affect your performance and probably result in your being fired. That will look bad on any future job references.
- MONEY - Addicts will lie, cheat, steal, borrow, and spend all of their earnings to feed their drug addiction. Many women turn to prostitution to pay for their addiction.
- FRIENDS - Your family has to live with you and try to help. Friends may stay close for awhile, but eventually your obnoxious addicted behavior will lose you your social friends. Your family will also finally give up on you.
- GOD - Once you put drugs before your friends and family, it is not a stretch to put drugs above your relationship with God.
- DEPRESSION can turn anyone towards drugs which may offer a short-term escapt from the sadness. The negative effects of losing your money, your friends, your family, your relationship to God, and your health from using the drugs will only intensify the depression. See your doctor for medication, exercise, eat well, get your rest, and participate in enjoyable activities to reduce your depression.
- MENTAL ILLNESS - Addicts are already acting in an insane way by choosing drugs over loved ones and friends; and using drugs only intensifies your mental illness and permanently rewires the addictive parts of your brain.
OPIOID DEPENDENCE (Morphine – Heroin – Codeine – Oxycodone – Hydrocodone)
- Opioid addictions generally cost about $40 a day to completely satisfy them.
- Opioids are excellent pain medication and produce euphoria.
- The addictive effect on the brain from the use of Opioids is irreversible.
- Past Opioid use requires extra care with 12-step groups to avoid relapse.
- Most Opioid-dependent patients suffer from at least one severe psychiatric comorbidity disorder.
- Opiods addiction is a chronic brain disorder that effects: Learning - Memory - Decision making - Behavior control.
- Opiods addiction may result from: A genetic factor - Childhood trauma - Mental health.
- Be positive, fair, but very firm as you provide support in their recovery while not enabling their addiction.
- Addicts will: Lie - Deceive - Manipulate - Steal to feed their addiction. Look for actions not just words.
SUBOXONE USED TO REDUCE DETOX SYMPTOMS AND POSSIBLE DEPENDENCE
- In addition to using Suboxone, Methodone, Buprenorphine, and Naltrezone to reduce the withdrawal symptoms from drugs, Counseling, Behavioral therapy, Exercise, Nutrition, and Vitamins should be used.
- Suboxone contains 1 part Nalozone and 4 parts Buprenorphine and used to detox from Opioids.
- While taking Suboxone, be sure to stay hydrated with water and take vitamins to reduce the extreme exhaustion and moodiness.
- Suboxone is in the Opioid family and blocks the cravings but does not provide the euphoria that illegal Opioid’s provide.
- Suboxone is addictive and will result in detox symptoms when you are weaned off of it.
- Suboxone therapy costs about$ 25 dollars a day and is generally not covered by insurance, unless as part of detox efforts in a Rehab facility.
- If used as an outpatient, there is a difference of opinion as to how long it should be taken. Personally, I believe all Opioid Detox, and Suboxone Maintenance to reduce withdrawal symptoms, should be completed within 30 days. (A Bradford stay and Detox is normally completed in 30 days). To extend the Suboxone maintenance as an outpatient just provides a greater opportunity to become addicted to Suboxone.
- God created me just the way I am.
- God has a perfect will for my life and the Holy Spirit will reveal it to me.
- SINFUL MAN: We all have a sinful and carnal nature leading to: Resentment – Defensiveness – Anger – Shame – Unforgiveness – Excuses and lies – Pride and Ego – Blame and abuse – Poor decisions.
- HELL: We all deserve to be condemned to Hell, along with satan, because of the original sin of Adam and Eve; the inherited sins, addictions, and shortcomings of our parents, and our own sins of the flesh and carnal nature.
- FORGIVENESS: Jesus was sacrificed to cover my sins: Past – Present – and Future.
- GRACE: God’s Riches at Christ Expense.
- FAITH: Forsaking All, I Take Him.
- BIBLE: God’s word that is reliable and trustworthy. To draw on this wisdom and power, we need to study the Bible and meditate on the promises and guidance during a consistent quiet time, study, participation in small groups, and Church.
- HOLY SPIRIT: God’s power, wisdom, and presence in us.
- HEAVEN: We all will die a physical death, but not a spiritual death if we have accepted Jesus as our Savior. Heaven is real and better than anything we can imagine. We need to live life in light of eternity.
- God wants to give me good things and for me to enjoy them.
- God wants me to be humble and appreciative and share my blessings with others. Find a need or hurt and fill it.
- Use your passions, talents, experiences and abilities.
- Living the Abundant Life (John 10:10).
- God’s forgiveness, Salvation, Support Groups, Humility, Teachable.
- Forgiving others with Understanding, Compassion, Healing, Serenity, Peace, Love, Joy, Caring, Love, and Making Amends.
- Family Covenant and Commitment to Faithfulness to each other, Love, Trust, Security.
- Controlled Freedom for children to become autonomous individuals who are: Energetic, Friendly, Self-Reliant, Cheerful, Achievers.
- Healing, Serenity, Peace, Love, Joy.
SUCCESS IN 12-STEP PROGRAMS AND OTHER THERAPY, DEPENDS ON THE ABILITY TO DISCUSS AND UNDERSTAND DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY SITUATIONS, SUBSTANCE ABUSE, EMOTIONAL DISORDERS AND OTHER PROBLEMS. THE KEY IS TO FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS AND RECONCILE TO THEM WHENEVER POSSIBLE
(This Web-page is based primarily on my study of the books by Steven Arterburn and Dr. David Stoop: "The Life Recovery Workbook", and "Forgiving Our Parents Forgiving Ourselves", and the Wikipedia Encyclopedia)
THE TWELVE STEPS FOR RECOVERY (With Tips for Disfunctional Families in Brackets)
1. WE ADMITTED THAT WE WERE POWERLESS OVER OUR PROBLEMS AND THAT OUR LIVES HAD BECOME UNMANAGEABLE. (Our Dysfunctional Family History Injured us and we are powerless to change the past).
2. WE CAME TO BELIEVE THAT A POWER GREATER THAN OURSELVES COULD RESTORE US TO SANITY.
3. WE MADE A DECISION TO TURN OUR WILLS AND OUR LIVES OVER TO THE CARE OF GOD.
4. WE MADE A SEARCHING AND FEARLESS MORAL INVENTORY OF OURSELVES.
- Substance abuse and addictions: (Sex – Alcohol – Prescription drugs – Illegal drugs).
- Eating Disorders.
- Anger Management Disorder.
- Unforgiveness and blaming others.
- Anxiety: (Performance - Fear of failure – Change - Insecurity – Self-esteem – Rejection – Health – Looks - Insects – Heights - Water).
- Depression (Clinical or Situational)
- Obsessive (Excessive) Compulsive Personality Disorders. (TV – Internet – Rap music – Video games)
- Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD OR ADHD).
- Oppositionally Defiant Disorder (ODD) and Conduct Disorder (CD).
- Co-Dependent Relationships: (Controlling Personality Disorder with Verbal and/or Physical Abuse - Dependent people).
- Narcissistic Personality (Life centers on me).
5. WE ADMITTED TO GOD, TO OURSELVES, AND TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THE EXACT NATURE OF OUR WRONGS. (We also look at the wrongs done to us by others).
- (Using our family history tree, we list our families negative traits that we may have inherited)
- (We list any bad habits of our parents and whether our mother smoked, or consumed alcohol or drugs while she was pregnant with us.)
- (Objectively assign responsibility accurately to ourselves and others who have influenced us).
6. WE WERE ENTIRELY READY TO HAVE GOD REMOVE THESE DEFECTS OF CHARACTER. (We are also willing to forgive others).
- (We are willing to give our past over to God with all of the losses, guilt, and shame over disgrace, disappointment, scars, dashed hopes).
7. WE HUMBLY ASKED GOD TO REMOVE OUR SHORTCOMINGS. (We humbly ask God to change us and accept His forgiveness. We also want to forgive others for their past failures).
- (Rid yourself of bitterness toward others).
- (Ask God to fill in your character with things you did not receive from your family.)
8. WE MADE A LIST OF ALL PERSONS WE HAD HARMED AND BECAME WILLING TO MAKE AMENDS TO THEM ALL. (We also make a list of people who have harmed us, or had bad habits and traits that we inherited or influence us).
9. WE MADE DIRECT AMENDS TO SUCH PEOPLE WHEREVER POSSIBLE, EXCEPT WHEN TO DO SO WOULD INJURE THEM OR OTHERS. (We also forgive others who hurt us and reconcile with them if possible).
10. WE CONTINUED TO TAKE PERSONAL INVENTORY, AND WHEN WE WERE WRONG, PROMPTLY ADMITTED IT. (Our goal is to forgive ourself and others and not revenge and holding grudges).
11. WE SOUGHT THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDITATION TO IMPROVE OUR CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD, PRAYING ONLY FOR KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL FOR US AND THE POWER TO CARRY IT OUT.
12. HAVING HAD A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING AS A RESULT OF THESE STEPS, WE TRIED TO CARRY THIS MESSAGE TO OTHERS, AND TO PRACTICE THESE PRINCIPLES IN ALL OUR AFFAIRS.
THE 12-STEP RECOVERY GROUPS, COUNSELORS, AND OTHER THERAPY
- Most 12-Step programs and even counseling programs concentrate on the sins of the person addicted. They seldom recognize that addicted people often come from a dysfunctional family background. Until the underlying character flaws are addressed, the addict will be in a vicious cycle of Rehab – Detox – and Relapse.
- We all need to uncover the roots of our pain – Find freedom from our family’s dysfunctional past and generational patterns – Discover a new abundant life for ourselves – Forgive and reconcile with our family and others if they are willing.
- Leaving your home and your family is never the healthiest answer to resolve problems caused by being raised in a dysfunctional family.
- You cannot change the past, but you can better understand its influence on you. This will help you make choices to free you from the effects of the past, to make the most of your future, and to develop healthier family relationships.
- Addictions and other disorders are bottomless pits – Your emotions and mental maturity stand still.
- You experience: A chaotic life – Crisis – Fear – Shame – Insecurities – Hopelessness – False Pride – Low ego and self-esteem – Anger – Suicidal thoughts – Godliness – Liberal thinking (free lunch) – Loneliness.
- Each high is a new short-term event that ends in a new low and resentment, frustration, and disappointment from you and people who love you.
- Your body is the Holy Spirit’s home – God wants it lean and clean.
- We all need support groups and people we can trust and talk to with: Honesty – Humility – Courage – Strength – Faith – Love – Hope – Forgiveness – Personal Growth.
- Love, forgive, and serve others – find a need (or hurt) and fill it using your talents, abilities, experience, resources, and spiritual gifts.
- Live life in light of eternity – Walk in the Spirit, moment by moment – Enjoy life to the fullest – John 3:16 and John 10:10.
TWELVE PROMISES FOR A MIRACULOUS CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU COMPLETE THE TWELVE STEPS FOR RECOVERY
- I know a new sense of belonging. The feeling of emptiness and loneliness will disappear.
- I am no longer controlled by my fears. I overcome my fears and act with courage, integrity, and dignity.
- I know a new freedom.
- I forgive and release myself from worry, guilt, and regret – past and present. I am aware enough not to repeat past mistakes.
- I know a new love and acceptance of myself and others. I feel genuinely lovable, loving, and loved.
- I learn to see myself as equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners.
- I am capable of developing and maintaining healthy and loving relationships. The need to control and manipulate others will disappear as I learn to trust those who are trustworthy.
- I learn that it is possible to mend – to become more loving, intimate and supportive. I have the choice of communicating with my family in a way which is safe for me and respectful of them.
- I acknowledge that I am a unique and precious creation.
- I no longer need to rely solely on others to provide my sense of worth.
- I trust the guidance I receive from God and come to believe in my own capabilities.
- I gradually experience serenity, strength, and spiritual growth in my daily life.
GUIDELINES FOR 12-STEP GROUPS
- Each group considers everyone in the group as equals as they work on their individual recovery with God’s help, and work together for encouragement and fellowship, and to carry the message to others.
- Leaders and group committees are elected by the majority as needed. They serve at the pleasure of the group. Leaders should have: Experience –Humility – Forgiving - Sobriety – Tolerance – Gratitude - Respect – Morals – Honor – Spiritual maturity – Integrity – Communication and teaching skills.
- All group leaders and members should not seek: Power – Control - Status - Acclaim – Prestige – Wealth – or Personal Agenda within the group.
- The decision-making process of each individual group should consider the group collective conscience.
- Spiritual principles should be used in all material, financial, and business affairs including: Fairness – Equality – and Respect for individual rights.
THE LORD’S PRAYER (Matthew 6: 9-15)
The Lord’s Prayer should be repeated, as each member of 12-step programs hold hands in prayer to close each meeting. The prayer acknowledges that God is our Heavenly King and His name and Word are Holy. We should all seek to do God’s Will on earth in the power of the Holy Spirit always. God will forgive our sins and provide for our needs. We should be willing to forgive ourselves and others, and reconcile with them if they are willing. God will assist us in resisting temptations and satan. God is Omnipotent (Absolute Power), Omnipresent (Everywhere), and Omniscient (All Knowing).
“Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever and ever, Amen”.
- Parental understanding and involvement is essential in children overcoming addictions.
- Positive motivation and assurance of the parents love is important.
- Parents should be involved in support groups and visits with doctors, psychiatrists, and psychologists. Even young adults can agree and approve these visits. It is important for the support people to have a clear understanding of where they are going with the recovery program. Parents cannot depend on the patient to tell them the truth; it is just a part of the illness that produces lies and deception.
- Goals, limits, and rules should be adopted, clearly understood, and followed as consistently as possible. Even the most rebellious children or those that have emotional problems and internal distress need clearly defined rules, with rewards and consequences.
- Maintain a positive and happy lifestyle and environment as you support your loved ones in recovery. If other family members and friends who are not a part of the solution criticize you or condemn you, keep them away from the person you are trying to help. You need a positive support group
FAMILY HISTORY AND TIME LINE
- TIME-LINE – Important and critical events like births, marriages, divorces, traumas, drug use, etc. should be listed in chronically order and used in discussions with your support group, family, counselors, etc.
- NEUROPSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATIONS – Any evaluations by doctors should be summarized along with any behavioral disorders or other problems you have been diagnosed with in the past. The dates should also be shown on your Time Line with a brief description.
- INTELLIGENCE – Grade averages and any academic tests results should be summarized for an expression of your ability to learn, read, comprehend, and overall intelligence level.
- FAMILY TREE – Your family tree should include your siblings, parents, and grandparents. Also include any aunts, uncles, and cousins if they have a history of addictions or disease. By each member list any addictions, disorders, and diseases. Show their ages when heart attacks or other serious illness first occurred.
- PARENTING STYLES:
- AUTHORITARIAN – Dictators with the primary focus on punishment for failure to perform, rather than attention, nourishment and rewards for performance.
- AUTHORITATIVE – Balanced and Firm goals and rules; with appropriate rewards and consequences. Family nourishment and attention.
- PERMISSIVE – No firm and fast rules; or the family members are allowed to ignore or break the rules without severe consequences.
- UNINVOLVED – Fail to nourish family relationships with emphasis on themselves, their occupation, their hobbies or sports, or their personal addictions or personality disorders.
SHORT AND LONG-TERM CONSEQUENCES OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE
- Health – Behavioral – Safety – Academic – Social – Economic – Depression – Anxiety – Panic attacks – Stomach problems – Lung problems – Bowel problems – Reduced driving and sports skills – Anger – Rage – Aggressive behavior – Lying – Stealing – Illicit sex with multiple partners – Social withdrawal – Suicidal thoughts – Distorted thinking – Concentrating – Problem solving – Memory loss – Schizophrenia – Thoughts – Feelings – Delusions – Actions – Hepatitis – HIV.
- Family members and society as a whole suffers from drunks and addicts being on the road and at work. Their response time diminishes and vehicle, home, and work accidents occur more often.
- Detox symptoms are scary and sometimes severe: Flu-like symptoms – Paranoia – Insomnia – Dizziness – Nausea – Sneezing – vomiting – Diarrhea – weakness – Chills – Tremors – Pain – Sweating – Itch – Restless legs.
WORLDLY ISSUES THAT AFFECT OUR PERSONAL GROWTH AND RECOVERY EFFORTS
- FAMILY: Parents – Siblings – Cousins – Other relatives – Spouse – Children - In-laws.
- FRIENDS: Family – School – Sports and other activities – Co-workers – Small groups.
- EMPLOYERS: Co-workers – Career path – Unemployment - Retirement.
- FINANCIAL PLANNING AND SECURITY.
- DOCTORS AND LAWYERS.
- CREDITORS AND DEBTS.
- EDUCATION: School – Grades - Teachers – Sports – Band – Cliques and groups – Bullies.
- GOVERNMENT ENTITIES: Politicians – Federal workers unions – Social Security – Medicare – Obamacare – Taxes – Deficit spending - National Debt.
- JUDICAL SYSTEM: Laws – Judges – Policemen – Prison – Probation.